As a nation, we are more than seven decades old. If someone asks a common citizen about what is wrong with this country, he or she is likely to list down several issues. However, the same person will find it very difficult to name a few things that are positive about this country, or the government, or the people. Why does complaining and criticising come so naturally to us? Why do we seldom praise people, institutions, policies and governments? There are several reasons for such a mindset that is exhibited more by the ‘literate, white-collar middle class’ of the nation.
The mindset takes its roots at home. Most of the discussions in ‘educated’ households revolve around criticism of the government, the organisation they work for, or the system itself. This negative approach misleads a young mind into picking up negative tendencies. Further, most of the workplaces in the country have ‘boss’ issues. People with any degree of authority prefer to be addressed as ‘Sir’ and ‘Madam’. This surely feeds their ego. The bosses are often seen enjoying privileges at the cost of their subordinates, which leaves the workforce unmotivated, dejected and irritated.
Our news channels, family dramas and social media postings add to the problem, making us even more critical and unappreciative.
The thing to do is to start appreciating instead of criticising others. The magic of appreciation will not directly solve most of our problems, but will give us the energy, the strength and the motivation to face them with courage and find a solution ourselves.
SYED ZOHAIB RIZVI
KARACHI
